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LOVERS UNITE

                    LOVERS UNITE

Darkest Star are excited to launch ‘Lovers Unite’, a small range of unique design dedicated to raising money for charity. 

With the introduction of the ‘Lover’ t-shirt this is the 1st design of the collection to be released. 

100% Silk Georgette, hand made in our studio this over sized T will fit most sizes.

To give you a little insight - 

"It was October 1st, 2015 when my brother and I walked into the small hallway to discover our dying Dad. His terrified frozen stare is a vision I’ll never forget, no matter how hard I try.

He’d been on the floor undetected for three days.

Sadly he passed away the following morning with my brother and I by his side, almost a year to the day after being told he had 12 months to live if he didn’t stop drinking.

Despite his drinking, he was a good man, he was articulate, intelligent and ridiculously good looking in his younger years. He was loving, fun and an entrepreneur at heart.

He wasn’t always a looser, Alcohol slowly stripped him of everything and he lost at life.

Dad was a single parent, fairly uncommon in the early 80’s. My grandparents lived with us through our primary school years … and then it was, apart from a few girlfriends here and there, just the three of us.

As a child you get on with your life, there’s no alternative, its the only life you know. You may have a sneak peek at others to compare but your heart belongs at home. Children are strong and resilient and will do their utmost to keep the family unit intact…. everything is ok, we’re fine, it’s us against the world.

We were lucky, our father was not a violent man. I never saw him raise a hand to anyone. My pain came from his tears, his lack of parenting, his slow demise. Others aren’t so lucky.

The children of alcoholics come in all different shapes and sizes, they can appear well rounded and beyond their years, emotional gravity keeping their feet firmly on the ground. They can be shy, angry, extrovert, sad, invisible. To the outside world there may seem nothing wrong … but the tangled web of emotions have already started to form, a web to trap them indefinitely if not navigated, pulled apart and dissolved.

With Dad’s small inheritance, in my 41st year I finally acknowledged I was worth it. I put the money into counselling, to untangle my web.

Children from families of addiction all too often suffer from low self esteem and mental health issues which can follow them into adulthood. Understanding it’s not their fault and valuing self worth, by getting support and talking to a professional, I believe we can give the child a fair chance at life and break the cycle of addiction.

If there’d been a charity such as NACOA when I was a child or had known about it in my teens I may have shared my thoughts, lightened the load, made sense of the crazy, love, hate, despair I felt.
I may have felt that someone truly understood my world.

This is not a cry for sympathy, this is a shout out for support. I want us to support a charity that’s supporting the child.

With every sale of our ‘Lover’ t-shirt we’ll donate £10 to NACOA, this will contribute to the general running of the charity and phone lines.

Through our ‘Lovers Unite’ range my true future vision is to build a network of therapists, providing free counselling for any child who seeks it….. but that will take time and money, there’s a lot of work to be done."

Sam D’Cruze
Director of Darkest Star

Click here to purchase a 'Lover' T-Shirt

Thank you so much for your support

 

Nacoa is The National association for Children of Alcoholics, a registered charity (No. 1009143), founded in 1990 to address the needs of children growing up in families where one or both parents suffer from alcoholism or a similar addictive problem.

This includes children of all ages, many of whose problems only become apparent in adulthood.

Alcohol problems often become the family secret, hidden from the outside world. This leaves children isolated and alone with no one to turn to.

We are here to help.

Together we can give them the chance of a brighter future.

In 2017, Nacoa was awarded Best Vulnerable Persons Helpline in the Social Care Awards 2017

Nacoa has four broad aims:
1. To offer information, advice and support to children of alcohol-dependent parents
2. To reach professionals who work with these children
3. To raise their profile in the public consciousness
4. To promote research into:
  1. The particular problems faced by those who grow up with parental alcoholism
  2. The prevention of alcoholism developing in this vulnerable group of children

1 in 5 children in the UK are affected by their parents drinking

nacoa.org.uk